You can trust your simulator to be the tool that it is
To paraphrase something Von Neumann once suggested: the only way to model an infinitely complex system is to use the system itself.
Simulators are tools. Like hammers. They're useful within the scope of their intended use. No more. No less. The reason (and this is important) that we still send our children to school to become engineers and scientists is that the tool will never be as valuable as the human mind.
Frankly, a simulator should be more than adequate to achieve your goals. After all, one of the first things a student learns about engineering is the value of tolerances and conditions. If your goal is to know exactly to the precision of a gnat's eyebrow what's going to happen, then you've failed to understand those basic axioms of engineering. Because...
- Manufacturing isn't that precise.
- Conditions of operation/use (e.g. ambient temperature) aren't that precise.
- The materials used to manufacture aren't that precise.
- Heck, our understanding of the universe simply isn't that precise.
We therefore use simulators knowing that it's not just the user's responsibility to understand the limits of the tool but the limits of the world and, above all, the limits of one's self. If the constructed design fails where the simulator said it should have succeeded, it's 98% of the time the fault of the designer to accommodate proper tolerances or to simulate all of the possible expected use conditions.
And I know that from personal experience. I once designed a power buffer. Thirty-two bits of high-capacitance drivers. I didn't properly simulate what would happen to the on-chip power plane when all thirty-two bits transitioned high-to-low simultaneously. I still remember the fab techs telling me how much fun they had vaporizing my chips. Apparently the destruction of the ground plane caused the distribution of boron in the packaging to change which lowered the vaporization point of the package to the point where the whole thing went Foof! Not Bang!... Foof! Total protonic reversal, if you get my drift. I'm told it was spectacular. And properly simulating the ground plane's response to that condition proved what would happen (the ground plane failure, not the Foof!) — but I was a young engineer and forgot to do it.
The simulator will work fine so long as your expectations include necessary tolerances and conditions. That's good engineering.